Stepping into Nathan's World

When you step into our home, you are stepping into our own little world we have created. We have allowed Nathan to be himself and we have adapted to his world.

Walking in at any given time you might see different houses lined up just so, including a Peppa Pig house with all of its furniture in place.

And trust me he knows if something is moved.

There could be old model cars lined up in only an order that Nathan understands and he stands back and admires his work for hours.

Mcdonald's happy meal boxes might be lined up on the table with cars in them because they have been turned into garages.

A bowl of milk sitting on the table with a spoon in it, it's the only way he likes to drink milk.

A Christmas tree in the middle of the Summer...well you know who doesn't want Christmas in Summer?!

Little boys clothes strewn throughout the house because at any given moment he is stripping down to his skivvies or changing into something he picked out all on his own.

He has created quite the style these days.

Photos in frames are randomly placed in specific spots that he has chosen in every room of the house.

The same episode of Peppa pig is playing on every TV in the house.

And if you step into our world be prepared for a little dog yapping. A fat Boston Terrier jumping on you. A squacking parrot that feeds off the chaos. A little girl smiling at you Two parents that don't know how we do it but we do. And a cat that looks at all of us like we are crazy.

To some you might wonder why we would allow our child to "take over our home." But to us it's still our home it's just our own little world.

Nathan has to adapt to the outside world to be able to live, so why not let him live in his and be comfortable? He's happy and that is all that matters to us.

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